Let's talk about birth - is it a medical or natural event?
Russell Brand called our conversation in the Under the Skin Series, “Birth, Feminism and Power”. It was a great opportunity to talk in depth about birth, and one area that I want to highlight more is this:
Do you consider birth to be a medical event, or a natural event?
For birth, accepting that medical help is there when needed, this is a very important question, and you can’t have it both ways.
One dad said:
“When we had our first baby I thought it was something you do. Now our second baby is on the way, I understand it’s something that happens”
.....a very profound remark that is absolutely spot on.
It is the same for all bodily functions. Is a sneeze something that you do, or something that happens? What about a yawn? Or blinking? You can’t decide when to give birth or how long it will take. If you try to meddle with either of these, you are interfering with nature and problems tend to follow.
In our modern world, by the time we reach adulthood we tend to have learnt to organise what we want to do, when to do it, and how to organise it. Birth is exactly the opposite, and it requires a considerable mental adjustment.
Strangely enough a woman’s body is made perfectly to give birth. Women have been doing it for millennia and they are very good at it. When a woman feels calm and confident, she naturally produces the hormone oxytocin that makes labour efficient and endorphins that make it comfortable. Yes, it really is that simple.
The trouble is we get in the way, and the biggest enemy is fear. When a woman is pregnant for the first time, her reality about birth tends to come from the movies or TV, from drama. Do you expect relationships to be like the relationships you see in TV dramas? Do you expect to learn about America from wild west or gangster movies?
The movies and TV have a lot to answer for when it comes to birth, and KGHypnobirthing is a process of letting go of the misconceptions, or the fears, of the tensions, so a woman’s body can give birth in the way it is designed to do.
Remember the 6 Cs of KGHypnobirthing:
- Choice. Knowing that she always has a choice and what her choices are puts a woman in control.
- Control. When a woman is well informed and in control, supported by those around her, she feels calm.
- Calm. Feeling calm gives her confidence.
- Confidence. When she feels confident and the body works in the way it is designed to do, she can experience giving birth in comfort.
- Comfort. Yes, women who learn KGHypnobirthing give birth in greater comfort.
- Communication. All this is achieved by good communication, but you need to know the right questions to ask to achieve this.