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Privileged to be a Doula in Italy

What has my holiday in Italy got to do with hypnobirthing?

Last year I was invited to Italy by Alice Parkinson to train a group of KGHypnobirthing teachers. One of the joys of the course was Giorgio, Alice’s baby son, who held out has arms and insisted on a hug every time I saw him.

Alice and her husband Gavin have restored a beautiful stone farmhouse in the hills of Tuscany and they let out self-catering accommodation http://cavalenzano.com/  and they are now expecting their second baby. At very short notice I had an invitation to stay with them for a week and rather jokingly said, ‘If the baby arrives when I am there I will doula for you.’

As I arrived Gavin came out to the car with the news: ‘She’s in labour!’  Perfect timing.

Alice was on her hands and knees on her bed with wonderful views across the Tuscan hills through the window with gentle surges coming every few minutes.  The pool was ready, and shortly after I arrived Gavin started to fill it.  Her two lovely midwives, Marianna and Giovanna, who I had met on last year’s course were there, and her Italian neighbours were happy to entertain Giorgio.  In Italy there is no state support if you have your baby at home and no pain relief such as gas and air (nitrous oxide) if you want it.  As the farmhouse is very remote, the local volunteer ambulance (rather like our St John ambulance) was on stand-by in case of need.  In the event they sat around in the sun for four hours and then went home again.

Alice got into the pool with her surges increasing in frequency.  She was surrounded with love and positivity.  Gavin was stroking her arms and gently encouraging her.  Marianna poured water down her back as a soothing massage.  I stroked her back and quietly supported her with positive thoughts as needed.  Every labour is different, and Alice wanted to talk and have gentle encouragement between surges.  Many women would prefer silence.  We followed where Alice led.

After four hours of labour her baby boy, Emilio, was born into the water and gathered straight into his mother’s arms.

We celebrated with pasta for supper.

What a perfect start to a wonderful week in Tuscany.  The only other thing that was waiting for me was the mosquitos.  Thank you Alice, Gavin, Giorgio and especially Emilio.

Alice’s Birth Story

Read this Alice’s inspiring birth story below or visit her blog to read here

alice babyAfter the traumatic (long labour ending in unnecessary rushed hospital interventions) birth of Giorgio, we were more determined than ever to have a positive birth experience for our second child. Ideally this meant at home with our lovely midwives Marianna and Giovanna, but we were realistic to know this isn’t always possible so the main things for us were ensuring as ‘natural’ (safe environment, drug and intervention free) birth as possible with positive supportive people around us who would advise and respect our decisions.

We prepared everything for a home birth, with back up of the local volunteer ambulance as standby (we live quite a long way from the nearest hospital), two very experienced midwives and months of preparation with our midwives and using Katharine Graves’ hypnobirthing techniques.

In the end, Emilio and I decided he was ready to be born a little earlier than expected, but we were basically ready. Initial irregular surges started at about 8 in the morning so we informed our midwives, who started to make their way to us when we informed them the surges were getting stronger a few hours later. Gavin rushed about getting everything finished – pool inflated, preparing lunch for everyone, warning our neighbours there might be some long hours of babysitting of Giorgio ahead while I pottered about doing what I could between surges.

Our midwives arrived at about 1.30pm, and soon after Katharine Graves (we had invited her to stay in one of our holiday apartments) who was out of the car and came straight up to our room to be our doula! Soon after I entered into active labour, kneeling on all fours on our bed and mooing like an angry cow in a deep voice (this would continue until birth with all the surges, I had a really sore throat the next day!).

At 3.30pm Marianna asked if she could check dilation and I was about 5-6cm so I got in the pool by the open window and continued to stay on my knees through the surges that became gradually more powerful. My husband Gavin was right in front of me the whole time, holding on to me, squeezing my wrists as I squeezed his, smiling at me and encouraging me through and after each surge, while Katharine, Marianna, Giovanna and a lovely young midwife Martina (who had asked to come and observe, and also offered to take photos) looked after me as well, fetching drinks, stroking and trickling water down my back and generally telling me how well I was doing.

To me this was one of the most important aspects, at one point I even started saying I was scared and couldn’t do it, partly just to hear from them all that I could and it was going great, it was as if I somehow just needed to hear it specifically in response to my ‘fear’ even though there wasn’t really any fear! On the other hand though I was able to joke in the breaks, asking if someone else wanted to take over for a while!

I think it was in this period that the hypnobirthing preparation really came into play. I couldn’t really concentrate on visualisations or specific breathing techniques, but I did notice that I would go to a different place during surges – I remember mentioning once that I was walking through the woods – and while I would become totally present in the room again between (some of) the surges, I would still be split in two, ready to go to the other place again. When I looked at Gavin at these times it was as if he knew I was somewhere else and could comfort me there, but not follow me there, it was something I had to do myself. Marianna told me after that my surges seemed quite short, but powerful, and in a way I’m glad – part of me thinks I couldn’t have managed longer ones, as the power/pain balance might have tipped by my losing concentration in favour of the pain! Who knows.

Around 5.30ish I needed encouragement from Giovanna to really direct my energies down, rather than most of it coming out in the mooing! Katharine encouraged the opening visualisations, bringing me a sunflower from the garden and Gavin fed off her positive energy, telling me how well I was doing. By now I really was to stuck in, making the physical space bigger (raising one or other leg up) and the mental space too (directly imagining my cervix and vagina widening and the baby coming down). At the end I kept being afraid the head was coming out ‘backwards’ (it felt as if my anus was going to split!) and also that the baby was slipping back between the short surges (he might have been as the cord was around the back of his neck so might have been pulling hi a little), but by push 6 of these last intense push surges I felt his head come out (oh, the relief!) – Marianna seemed to say an age later ‘His head is out’ to which I replied ‘I know!’ His body followed very quickly, with both shoulders coming at the same time (unfortunately re-tearing the scars from Giorgio’s birth), Marianna passed him through my legs to Giovanna who unwrapped m backthe cord from his neck and I took him from her arms, this tiny thing with wide open eyes. I was in shock I think, I didn’t know what to do or say so I just stared at him, only gradually becoming aware of the room and everyone else again and savouring the sense of relief that I had finally done it.

And not to forget the third stage…..by this point the water had cooled a little too much so they all helped me out of the pool, juggling baby and cord and onto the bed where I quickly birthed the placenta (also a massive relief, it felt really icky!), lay back to have some stitches (not nice at all but necessary) while holding out little baby with Gavin next to me comforting and stroking me still.

What I appreciate most about Gavin, about out midwives and Katharine, about the hypnobirthing preparation and about being at home was the confidence they all gave me. Going through labour, even essentially a pretty quick textbook labour, and birth, was still a massive shock and such a strong experience, but I can now say with pride that I gave birth – it wasn’t something that happened to me but something that my baby and I did together, supported by a whole team of wonderful people both in the room at the time and through out the preceding pregnancy, online, on the phone and in person.

Breech Babies – Unusual But Normal

I wonder if breech births will be considered normal in ten or twenty years’ time, just as they were 20 years ago?

What is Normal?

breech birthMost babies are born head down in the cephalic presentation. A few individualists, about 4%, decide that head up, bottom down, is best for them. It may be because of the shape of the uterus, the position of the placenta, the position of the cord, or simply that they haven’t got around to turning until there wasn’t much room to do it. It is presumptuous for us to think we know better than the baby the best position for birth. We are outside, it knows the situation inside.

Most babies turn head down between about Week 30 and Week 36. Until that time there is plenty of room and they could be in any position. Some women are told at Week 31 or Week 32 that their baby is breech which is iniquitous. At that stage it is simply a baby that hasn’t turned yet. By about Week 35 you begin to think that this really is a breech baby.

Is Your Baby Really Breech?

The Hannah Trial

Until 2001 breech babies were born normally. In 2001 a report came out, The Hannah Trial, which suggested that it was safer for a breech baby to be born by caesarean. The methodology of this trial has subsequently been considered suspect and it only considered a caesarean and a breech delivery.  A breech delivery means the woman was flat on her back with legs in stirrups. What the trial did NOT include was a normal breech birth with the woman on her hands and knees with a midwife present as shown in the attached photos. Subsequent research has shown this is the safest way for a breech baby to be born.

However, when The Hannah Trial came out, instantly all breech babies were born by caesarean and, though midwives are fully trained in assisting a woman to give birth to a breech baby vaginally, many of them have little opportunity to practice their skills. Because of all the research advocating normal birth, hospital policy is beginning to change. Many hospitals are encouraging normal birth for breech babies and are developing specialist teams of midwives to be available when a breech baby is born, and this trend is continuing.

Am I allowed to have a breech birth?  What are my rights?

Some women are told they have to have a caesarean if the baby is breech.  If ever you hear the words ‘allowed’ or ‘have to’ it’s the time to ask questions.

You are legally allowed to do whatever you like, and being sensible you want to find out the facts and carefully consider the advice of your midwife or obstetrician.  Hospital protocols, national guidelines and evidence based care can sometimes be very different. Never be rushed into a decision. Always find out the facts first. Always make your decision out of knowledge and evidence rather than out of emotion. Remember it is YOUR decision, and these days more hospitals are supporting women in giving birth to their breech presenting babies normally. For example, St Thomas’ Hospital in London has set up a breech birth team so they can offer the best evidence based care to the mothers who give birth at the hospital.

Who can I talk to about having a breech birth?

breech baby If your baby is breech and you would like to talk it through with someone, there are three places you can go to:

  1. Make an appointment with the supervisor of midwives or the consultant midwife at the hospital. She will give you more time than you have in your normal antenatal visit and will have more experience and seniority to sometimes be able to help you with a less choice. She will, however, be to an extent still be subjected to hospital protocols.
  2. Call the AIMS helpline on 0300 365 0663. This is a wonderful free resource to help anyone with a birth related question.
  3. Make an appointment with your nearest independent midwife who you can find on IMUK.org.uk . Independent midwives often have more experience than the NHS with breech babies as many women turn to them if it is difficult to find support in the NHS. After an hour’s appointment with an independent midwife you will be well informed and feel confident that whatever decision you make is the best choice for you.

How Can I Help My Breech Baby to Turn?

Sometimes your babies choice of position is in fact the right one for them.  However I understand that there are certain presures in our society to have a head down presentation.  With that in mind here are some options to help your baby turn:

1. External Cephalic Version

The hospital will offer an ECV (External Cephalic Version) to try to turn a breech baby. External because this is a manipulation that is done on the outside, Cephalic because it involves changing the position of the baby’s head, and Version because it is an attempt to turn the head downwards.

This is thought to be about 50% effective. Like every procedure it carries risks. The risk is that, in performing this forceful manoeuvre, the cord will be pulled, which will pull the placenta, which starts to detach and bleed. If this happens it is necessary to perform an immediate caesarean. That is why an ECV is not performed until Week 37 when the baby is concerned to have reached the average length of pregnancy.

Women who have trained in hypnobirthing have reported that using breathing and visualizations have helped keep them relaxed during this manipulation.

2. Acupuncture and Reflexology

There are other more gentle ways to encourage a breech baby to turn. Both acupuncture and reflexology are considered to be about 60% successful.

3. Talking To Your Baby

The most effective of all is hypnotherapy which is said to be about 80%.  It may be difficult to accept that talking is more effective than ‘doing something’, but research shows this to be the case.

I have found that it is very effective if a mother simply talks to her baby herself. After all hypnotherapy is only words. She strokes her bump gently from the top, going down the left hand side to the bottom, at the same time gently talking to her baby, suggesting that it might like to turn, that it’s easy to turn, that many babies are easily born head down, that she acknowledges it could be in the very best position for him/her.

4. Spinning Babies

The Spinning Babies website describes a number of ways to help your breech baby turn head down.

Useful Resources

breech Aims booklet

Breech Birth – What are my options?

Author: Jane Evans

One of the most experienced midwives in assisting women to give birth to their breech babies has written this informative and empowering book to inform women about the choices they have and help them decide what is right for them.

Purchase here

Breech birth relaxation audio

Breach Baby Audio

By Katharine Graves

Relaxation audio and suggestions for a head down presentation.

Purchase here

Real Life Stories

Parnell smWe want to encourage people to think differently about a breech presentation.  You can still enjoy a natural birth.  Here are some fabulous breech birth stories:

Further resouces available on our website:

Credits and References

 

 

KG Hypnobirthing Proud to Support the Doula UK Conference

KG Hypnobirthing is very proud to be supporting the Doula UK Conference being held on 19th March in London. This precedes World Doula Week which commences on the 22nd March.

Any birth professional, from doulas to midwives, hypnobirthing and antenatal teachers, health visitors and other persons who support women in the perinatal period would find this event a true learning experience.

They have a fascinating line up of talkers and workshops including talks from:

  • Mia Scotland (Clinical Psychologist, birth doula, and author) – “Sane Mothers in a Crazy World; how society sets us up to fail”
  • Elizabeth Prochaska (Chair of Birthrights and barrister at Matrix London) – “Human rights in childbirth”
  • Mars Lord (Doula, Head of Internal Communications at Doula UK) – “Doulaing, the Spice of Life”
  • Plus, poetry from Kati Edwards throughout the day.

There are several workshops:

  • Kate Greenstock – Birth Your Business into Being
  • Katherine Woodbury – Beaded Birthlines
  • Indira Lopez Bassol – Tongue Tie and Symptoms for Breast and Bottle

If you are interested in finding more about doulas and their valuable role in supporting women there are two video interviews with Doula and KG Hypnobirthing Teacher Zara de Candole. Click here to view.

For tickets please click here.

Further details about the conference and the doula website click here.

Singer/Songwriter Sandi Thom Chooses KG Hypnobirthing

Sandi Thom chooses Hypnobirthing

It was a privilege to recently teach KG Hypnobirthing to Sandi Thom and her husband Matt Benson. Sandi, a singer/song writer from Scotland is expecting her first child soon and is relishing this opportunity to learn about Hypnobirthing.

Sandi and Matt’s baby will have heard lots of singing during the pregnancy, I am sure these songs will be very soothing for baby when they arrive in this world.

Sandi’s new single, ‘Earthquake’ can be downloaded or streamed from here. http://www.sandithom.com/earthquake/.

Amazing experience

As we headed towards Sarah’s due date, our anxiety level began to soar. Ella, our first baby, born 5 years ago, arrived 10 days early, which is typical of a baby with Down’s Syndrome. Ella was a KG Hypnobirthing baby, and her birth, was calm, natural and easy. She was a very special arrival and due to Katharine’s guidance, support and sheer love we felt confident that all would be well and it was. She was a very calm, relaxed and easy baby. Rosie was in established labour for less than 7 hours and delivered Ella in the MLU. The midwives present at Ella’s birth were so impressed with Rosie’s ability to stay calm and focused and indeed commented Charles how impressed they were with the impact of hypnobirthing, and said if Rosie were to have another baby labour would be quick and easy if she remained so relaxed as her body had done it before.

Charles, our second baby’s arrival, was in complete contrast. We had moved to the coast in Kent, and decided to attend a hypnobirthing refresher course with a local practitioner in order to renew our confidence. It helped to a degree, but Rosie did not feel the same sense of self confidence as she did following the KG Hypnobirthing experience. As Charles’s due date approached there was an expectation that he would arrive early, just as Ella had. In addition, for 2 long weeks before Charles was due to arrive, Rosie kept experiencing surges most nights, so thought on numerous occasions that labour was starting. These false starts fed our anxiety and expectations of an early arrival. Feeling completely fed up, Rosie decided she would have a sweep when labour stalled for the umpteenth time at the MLU / days before Charles’s due date. The sweep did indeed begin labour, but it was intense and cruel and as a couple we found it impossible to get on top of. Surges were completely unpleasant, intense and painful and hypnobirthing completely went out of the window. Rosie felt she had lost control. The Midwives forgot to remind Rosie to go for a wee and consequently, poor baby Charles couldn’t get past a full bladder and Rosie’s bladder couldn’t be emptied because baby’s head was in the way. After a long and difficult labour, albeit in water in the MLU, Rosie was rushed to the labour ward. Once the epidural was in, a c-section was on the cards unless Charles appeared with three pulls on forceps. He arrived screaming into the world, and didn’t stop crying for hours. He was an unsettled, fussy baby, who wasn’t easily settled, couldn’t be put down, and was so terribly fragile and anxious. Rest assured, 2 ½ years on, he’s a confident, cheerful little boy with a true zest for life and a beautiful curiosity for the world about him. We are certain his stressful birth had a detrimental impact on the first period of his life.

Discovery we were pregnant for a third time filled us with fear and dread about the birth process. Rosie had her mind made up the she would have an epidural from the onset of labour and that was the end of it. Rosie really did not want to have anything to do with our local hypnobirthing teacher – if she was going to ‘do it’ naturally she wanted KG and who can blame her!

Having messaged KG, we arranged for her to visit us at our home on New Year’s Day, 2015. We would spend some time together, work through Charles’s birth and think about how we could manage Sarah’s birth differently.

We spoke about our hypnobirthing experiences and rediscovered its beauty and simplicity. KG’s kindness, warmth, generosity, expertise and ability to make us feel completely at ease was enhanced by her passionately positive outlook on life, and we were reminded of her love and passion for and belief in hypnobirthing. Once again, we were converted and ready to face the arrival of Sarah with excitement and joy.

Thanks to KG, the arrival of Sarah was the talk of the MLU. Sarah was 12 days late, but Rosie did not want any interventions to hurry the onset of labour along. The student midwife who was present at Sarah’s birth said that Rosie had a renewed her belief in natural birth with no interventions, as she had seen so many labours begin in the MLU and end up in the labour suite of late. Sarah’s birth was inspirational and had “restored” her faith in the MLU. A senior midwife told Rosie that Sarah’s birth was “text book”. The reason why it was such a successful, beautiful, calm and easy birth is because Rosie listened to her body and trusted her instincts.

In our birth plan, it specified that Rosie did not want any examinations, unless she asked for one; and she didn’t.

Labour started at about 2am and we arrived and the MLU by 4am. By 4.30am, Rosie was labouring in water. Everything went extremely well until the point of transition, which sadly was the time when the shift of midwives changed. This was exactly the point at which things started to go wrong during Charles’s labour. We both felt horrified and feeling particularly protective towards Rosie, I was completely direct with the new midwives. I explained our anxieties and they suggested Rosie get out of the water, move around and empty her bladder. She couldn’t. Anxiety levels shot through the roof and so it was agreed that they would drain her bladder with a catheter. Once Rosie’s bladder was empty, she had a bowl of breakfast cereal and a cup of tea. She refocused. I buzzed the midwives and asked them to re-fill the birthing pool. Once full, Rosie got into the water and simply listened to her body and relaxed. The midwives and I had a very brief conversation about where Rosie might be in her labour and they said they didn’t know, only an examination would confirm, but, since her breathing had changed they thought she was ready to breathe Sarah out. The midwives commented that not knowing was good for them and was keeping them on their toes, that they could put their skills of observation to perfect use.

Rosie agreed for them to use a mirror to see if they could see Sarah’s head and they could. Many people had told us that after their first babies their subsequent babies arrived quickly, so there was an expectation that Sarah would be born quickly. In fact, she was born slowly and gradually. Rosie gave her body time to move with our daughter, to open slowly and comfortably. She listened to her body beautifully and breathed her way through it all. She received no direction from any of the midwives – only “listen to your body” and that’s exactly what she did. She listened to and she trusted her body.

Eventually, when Sarah arrived into the world into water, she was sound asleep and hadn’t noticed she had been born. She opened her eyes after a few minutes and locked eyes with her mummy who greeted her with such immense love, joy and pride.

Because Rosie was so determined to have a positive birth experience and despite being 12 days overdue she refused to have any interventions, and we’re convinced that this determination contributed to such a calm and easy birth. However, there were moments of despair and desperation and at those times, we reflected and held on to KG’s words of wisdom and at other times, we called and chatted with Katharine who just normalized everything and made it all feel OK and just right.

Today, at 5 months old, Sarah is calm, peaceful and such an easy and relaxed baby.

There isn’t anyone quite like Katharine and there isn’t any birth experience quite like a KG Hypnobirthing birth and we hope that our three birth experiences illustrates this.

The Role of a Doula

To have a doula to care for you at birth has become more usual over the last few years.

So what is a doula, and what does she do?

Doula is the Greek word for female slave, and it has been adopted to describe someone who supports a woman giving birth. She is not medically qualified, but a doula has done a full training and is knowledgeable about birth. She knows about the birth process and how to create an environment and state of mind to facilitate it. She knows how to make a woman feel comfortable and to help her and her partner feel confident . When a woman feels comfortable and confident, birth often proceeds more easily and is more likely to be a gentle and positive experience.

A doula will have more knowledge than the couple she serves of any procedure that is being proposed and of the possible outcomes. She will also know about any alternatives that a busy midwife or obstetrician might not have the time to explain fully, and she can help a couple ask the right questions that will help them make the right decisions for them. These decisions are important and can have implications for the health of mother and baby for many years to come.

She may have a knowledge of essential oils to calm the birthing room and flower remedies to help the mother release any fears she may have and relax. She may be trained in massage for birth, or other therapies.

Continuity of Care

Vitally a doula provides continuity of care for a woman giving birth. Without exception everyone agrees that continuity of care in pregnancy, labour and birth is the gold standard of care, but in general medical services are unable to provide this. There are a few exceptions, and pockets of excellence that are a shining example of what can be achieved, but in general when a woman goes into labour she meets a stranger.

Usually a doula will meet the mother two or three times before the birth and get to know her. They will discuss how she would like her birth to be, and her preferences in terms of care. The doula can explain to her things she may have heard but not understood, or not understood the full implications. A doula is on call whenever or wherever a woman goes into labour and will be with her throughout labour and birth. She will be able to suggest the most comfortable positions, and gently massage her back or stroke her arm or her abdomen. She will make sure the woman has a sip of water from time to time so she doesn’t get dehydrated, and offer her a snack to keep her energy up. Most importantly, she is simply there for her – all the time. A comforting a knowledgeable presence that helps put a mother’s mind at rest, allows her to relax, and the birth to proceed smoothly.

Support for the Father

But what about the father? It is enormously comforting for him to know there is someone else there who has more knowledge than him and who will boost his confidence as well as that of his partner. She can suggest little things he can do that would be helpful, and even allow him a rest if the birth takes place at night.

In a way you could regard the function of a doula as the role a midwife used to perform. These days, a midwife is a highly qualified medical professional whose area of expertise is normality. A century or so ago the midwife would have been a woman in the village with more experience of birth, maybe a knowledge of herbs to aid relaxation, and someone that everyone trusted, with a soothing and calming presence. In a busy modern hospital, a midwife simply does not have the time to just ‘be there’ for a labouring woman, much as she would love to. She has notes to write, checks to do, maybe she is caring for two women and has to allocate her time between them both. In recent years, the birth rate has gone up, but the number of midwives has remained the same. At the same time bureaucracy has gone through the roof, and midwives spend far more time writing notes and checking that the protocols have been adhered to. She would love to perform the traditional role of a midwife as well, but she simply doesn’t have the time.

A doula fills this gap. As midwives become busier and more medicalised, doulas become more popular. Many women find it extremely comforting to have a doula supporting her when she gives birth, and it is certainly something to be seriously considered.

Many doulas have also trained in hypnobirthing to better support a mother, and you will be given a list of KG Hypnobirthing teachers who are also qualified doulas when you do your KG Hypnobirthing Course to prepared you for the birth of your baby.

Breech Baby

A little while ago I worked with a mother to turn her breech baby, and the baby duly turned, as it does in 80% of the cases when you use hypnotherapy to turn a breech baby. Last week I heard that the baby had been born by c-section because the baby’s heartbeat had slowed in labour due to the cord being round its neck. This set me thinking again about interventions in labour. Was the baby breech originally because a combination of baby’s and mother’s instinct knew that, in this case, it was safer to be born this way round. After all, the baby is the only person who knows where the cord is and the exact position of the placenta, and it’s extremely presumptuous of us to think we know better, because we don’t.

In the modern world, a breech baby is almost automatically delivered by c-secion, but I know hypnobirthing mothers who have easily delivered a breech baby with no drugs, no pain and with a gentle and easy labour.

The modern assumption that having a baby is a medical emergency and that we know better than the baby what should be done is dangerous and arrogant. A healthier assumption could be that all is well unless proved to the contrary, rather than that we should intervene unless it’s proved to be unnecessary.

A mother will always do the best she can for her child. Maybe that’s why we use the phrase, ‘Mother’ Nature.